Updated: Apr 30
How do some people keep winning and you feel you are stuck? Nearly everyone wants to have a beach body, but not all want to put the effort into their diet and working out. You see everyone around you being promoted and you are still in the same position. Being successful isn’t automatic, there is no golden ticket to success. It requires concentrated effort, mindset and action.
Many of us have a series of excuses that we can pull out of a hat at a moment’s notice. There’s always one that seems to fit the bill perfectly. This is done largely to protect ourselves and to justify our current circumstances.
Are any of these excuses holding you back from success?
1. “I don’t know how.” This common excuse gives you permission to not even try. However, this excuse simply doesn’t hold water. At no time in the history of mankind has there been so much information available. Want to start a charity? There are hundreds of books on the subject. Need to lose 10 Kgs? There are thousands of resources available. want a promotion? Learn how to connect with those around you, improving your EQ can get you that promotion.
One of the best ways to figure out how to do something is to find a qualified mentor.
Another effective option is to simply try and then adjust your approach based on your results.
2. “I’m afraid.” This is perhaps the most socially acceptable answer. Who hasn’t been afraid? But there is very little to legitimately fear in our modern times. In most circumstances, you’re not in danger of being eaten by a lion or falling off a cliff.
· Most of our fears are socially based and have no real consequences. Being afraid isn’t a valid excuse 99% of the time.
· Would you rather be successful or protect your ego?
Ultimately 'being afraid' an also aligned with 'losing face' or 'failing fear' and that is why many give up or in many cases - never start!
3. “I don’t have enough time.” Do you really believe this? Nearly all of us waste time on activities that provide no real value, including watching TV, internet surfing, and a host of other time wasters.
You know in your heart you could make the time for something that was truly important to you.
Procrastination is the enemy of success and the guilt of not doing something always steals your energy. - Barbara Corcoran
Not only do you waste time on irrelevant activities, the guilt you suffer from not completing what you know you need to, is exhausting.
Many a student has a tidy home instead of completing that assignment that is due!
4. “I don’t have enough money.” This is another common excuse, but there is usually a way to work around a lack of financial resources. For example, if you’d like to learn to a new skill online but don't have a computer and can't afford one, you could:
· Go to your local library
· Pick up an inexpensive computer online
· Ask a friend if you can use their computer
5. “It’s too late for me.” It’s too late? A person climbed Mount Everest in his 80’s. People have gone back to medical school in their 60’s. What would you like to do?
Getting a late start might be less convenient and more challenging, but there’s nothing wrong with that. It means that you’ll only take on the challenges that are really important to you and wont waste time on the small stuff. That could be a good thing.
To be fair, there are a few things that require an earlier start than others. You’re not likely to play in the NBA if you take up basketball in your 30’s. But you could be a coach or work in the front office.
In 1952 at the age of 65, when most people are looking at slowing down and retiring, Harland David Sanders began Kentucky Fried Chicken. Yes Colonel Sanders worked a myriad of jobs from railroads to tire sales to a ferry service. He was a lawyer, an amateur obstetrician, and he sold gas lamps to farmers. It wasn't until he was 65 that he founded KFC. The rest is history!
6. “It’s too hard.” Some endeavours are certainly more competitive than others. But claiming that something is “too hard” is really just another way of admitting that you’re afraid.
The truth is that people with limited resources and talent can still be extremely successful.
We tend to imagine the competition is much tougher than it really is. The average person doesn’t have a lot of control over himself. He’s not truly committed. Only those with motivation and stamina are really the ones who succeed.
People that are successful on a regular basis tend to have the fewest excuses. How could it be any other way?
Those with excuses are able to justify not taking action. However, no action equals no results. So put aside your excuses and go after what you truly want. You’ll be glad you did!